Its hard not to follow the multitude

最近看了一篇散文，講到人在群體間生活因渴望得到認同

而做許多事去迎合旁人

文章裡提到: 揣摩別人的心意而硬將自己套進一個不適合的棺木中，是人生一件悲哀的事

好像講得有點誇張

然而這大概是很多人的寫照

舉例說假設公司裡有一個被大家所痛恨的人

身邊的人都說他是如何的不濟，既陰險又會計算人

身處其中，儘管那人其實不是所講的糟糕

但有誰敢站出來維護他？旁人說不定還多踩兩腳而示自己投入哩

人就是這樣被同化的

因大部份人都受不了眾人皆醉我獨醒的寂寞

隨波逐流的"好處"是，錯了大不了聚在一起訴訴苦

堅持己見而又選擇錯誤

既要承擔後果，還要承受群眾的冷嘲熱諷

如選擇背棄人群

就要具有承受孤獨、 承擔責任的勇氣

你又是否擁有這樣的勇氣？

Happy Mother's Day

I love Central

All cities posses CBD; Central is the main business district of HK

The day and night of Central are so different. During daytime, it is so bustling that you cannot even stop walking. People will push you from behind to carry on

It is full of exhausted, stress and tension

However it is completely opposite at night. It is like the city finally released from bustle and trying to give herself some fresh air

There are less people walking on the streets

People are hanging out somewhere within the district. I love having a cup of coffee in a small cafe, while at the same time looking at people having fun with friends after long working hours

I enjoy these peaceful moments

again.... being a mother

Speaking of the responsibility of being a mother, I noticed an extreme case in my office

Perhaps I shouldn't be talking about this here, since some persons reading this also know her (I know you are reading!)

The girl.. well, that woman, is a typical case: she works for her family and has no objective towards her career

She hired a maid to take care of her kids, and she works to feed her maid (boss)

It is such a headache to her if her boss takes leave, because she would have to take leave as well in order to take care of her kids

Everytime she talks about herself: kids, hubby, hubby's work, maid, kids's school teachers, again kids, hubby once again...

No objective. No interests or hobbies. No other thing

She has no personal life at all

I got so tired just seeing this

If being a mother is the duty of every girl, I truly doubt if I am qualified for this job

Being a mother

A few of my friends have become mothers in their 20's; another will give birth at the end of year, she is also 26. When I was having dinner with those girls & their kids, I thought to myself: would I become a mother, too?

I remember that when I had conflicts with my mom, she said this to me: One day when you have kids, you'd know how I feel now. And I yelled: You don't have to worry about that, I will never be a mother. No! 

Raising a child requires lots of love and patience and it is such a heavy responsibility

Some parents do not give much attention to their children; some are really concerned about their kids, but at the same time they bring pressure, too. Most of them feed their children well materially, yet they fail to pass values on to them. I don't want to give my child a painful childhood: If I can't promise my kid a happy life, I'd prefer not to have one